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Hi.
Now, very seriously, WHY there is no school for parents?
This question came to my head when I realised how many parents abuse their children; how many parents don’t know what they are doing and just improvising. How many parents are having children just to get benefits from government or just to tick from their life list – oh, I’ve done that.
Why do we have universities and degrees for jobs – like literally any job, but nothing for parenting?
Having children is literally the biggest responsibility anyone can take. This is the most important thing a human can do – have a child. It takes a lot, mentally and physically, especially for women. So why, there is no school for that? No courses, no training. Nothing. No proper support.
We are growing children in awful environments and with abusive/ignorant or neglectful parents.
This is our reproduction. But we literally put 0 effort into making ourselves better, we are not doing anything to make children grow in better environments. We are literally stuck.
There has been much research done regarding how unsafe environments affect children and their development. Honestly, it is very bad. To grow up in safe environment opens up many doors for a human and it can help our development as species. But for some reason, nobody cares about growing children in safe environments. Not to mention all rough areas, wars or poverty countries.
I know I will get a lot of backlashes regarding this, but in my opinion – not everyone should be allowed to be parents, same as not everyone should be allowed to be a doctor. You wouldn’t want an alcoholic doctor to heal you, right? So, why do alcoholics are allowed to have children?
It’s the same how not everyone should be allowed to have pets. Do you know how many people abuse pets? Innocent animal who can’t protect itself?
WHY do we have requirements for a simple job role, going through interviews, practice, knowledge, but PARENTING????? YOU NEED NOTHING TO BE A PARENT?
Anyone can be a parent?
That is absolutely nonsense.
If you gonna say this is a human right to have a child, so why abortion is not a human right then? Human right is to live in a safe environment. How many children do grow up in safe environments? Minority. Human right is to have food. How many children live in poverty? We can continue. But where does the logic stop?
It is a human right to seek education, but if you fail, well – you can’t continue, can you?
So why abusive/dysfunctional parents are allowed to have children?
Why there is no training for parents? No preparation? No education? If you’re not qualified to be a parent, then means you can’t be one, can you?
Or another alternative, if you’re having children – you must go to the school and if you’re not capable, they’re taken away.
I saw one video, where current generations don’t want to have children due financial instability and then someone asked older generation about it, and they reply was – we didn’t have money either, but we somehow made it. Yeah, and are your children mentally good? Like, financial instability means you cannot provide to a child, it means, you might end up living poorly, you might not be able to get them necessary medications. Like, I personally, don’t understand, what people were thinking back in a day.
If you can’t afford to get a degree, then you don’t get one. If you can’t afford to have a child, then don’t make one. I also think it is patriarchy that made women children machine, just to hit men ego that they have left some legacy in a world. Like sometimes makes me think, do people understand that children are humans, not some type of medal to collect? It’s not an object; it is a living body with consciousness.
Oh, also some parents have children to ”save” their marriage or on purpose trap someone in a relationship. LIKE WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE??? Where is empathy? Where is compassion?
Mentally as well. So many parents are mentally unstable. They don’t work on themselves and then they abuse children. If you can’t mentally take care of yourself, the last thing you should be taking care of a child. OF ANOTHER HUMAN BEING.
Someone can decide to kill the whole city of innocent people (and take away their human right to be alive), but we are not allowed to decide that certain people shouldn’t have children?
If you think, I am angry, you are right. Because I had enough seen kids growing up in abuse, neglect and hate. I’ve seen it all, I grew up like that myself and you know what for years I was thinking? I wish I was never born. Because growing up the way I grew up, I rather would not be born at all.
It is enough to allow for this to continue. If we want to get rid of abuse, we need to start preventing it. Prevention is – protecting children and making sure they grow up in safe and loving environments.
Also, this would help to avoid for men leaving women and running away to make more children. If you’re having a child – no runaway. You’re taking responsibility. The number of children who grow up without fathers is insane and it is unhealthy.
It should be a human right to grow up in a safe and healthy environment.
Only parents who can, should be allowed to have children and yes, if you’re going to ask, well, how this can be stopped? Men can get vasectomies and stop impregnating women. Moreover, they can freeze their sperm or reverse vasectomy. Why men?
Women can only be pregnant once in 9 months and some still struggle to get pregnant. Men can impregnate women EVERY DAY. Who rape women and impregnate them every day? MEN. Do you think rapists just dream of having children? No. But who needs to grow that child? A woman who was abused and traumatised for the rest of her life? This makes me so furious.
If there would be a school for parents, how to go through all of it, graduate and officially are mentally stable themselves, financially capable, then go ahead and have children. School for parents would prepare and help so that child can grow up in a safe and loving environment. (Please note I didn’t say perfect, no one is perfect and we’re not aiming at that. We’re aiming at being secure and safe).
It is time for parents to start taking accountability and responsibility for their actions.
That’s why school for parenting should exist and be a normal practice and only when you graduate you are allowed to have children. Or if you’re having kids then you must go to parents’ school!