Hellooo,

so I have a weird reason why I decided to write about this theme. I had a dream about my boyfriend that we were talking about relationships and what we noticed. After I woke up I saw my own note on the table with one word on it – relationships. 😀

A sign or not, I will talk about what I dreamt.

I don’t know if you are in relationship right now or if you were or if you haven’t been yet. But being together with one person always gets tough. We all experience various steps being in relationship.

• I would say first step – the beginning and meeting each other time to time is the easiest. You are not expecting anything, you spend time together when both of you can or want, you even have time to miss a person. Or you spend whole weekend together and don’t see each other for weeks. Depends on relationship. But there is nothing hard during this stage of relationship as everything usually is easy.

• Second step is a bit more complicated – living together. This is a real challenge as trust me, you will have arguments. Living together brings a lot of things you didn’t know about each other, people are true themselves at home. You will see how you deal or not deal with disagreements. Constantly seeing each other, being together 24/7 is not an easy task. This stage of relationship probably sets up a lot. For example, if you gonna just adjust all the time with other person or not. If you gonna be able to find best solution for both parts or not. If you grow or you suffer. I don’t think this step ruins relationships and I think usually people are willing to fight and workout.

• Third step is marriage or if you are not marriage material than for sure you will buy some property together. Basically, some investment that both of you make. Which is more than just living together, now financially you are committed to each other. I think this is a step where a lot of couple breaks up. Something always happen, somebody realises marriage is too much. These two type of commitments you can easier to solve, they are still not for a lifetime, they either scare one side, either makes the bond waaay stronger.

• Fourth step is children. To have children is for a lifetime. We all know that children change life completely, they change couples too. If couple was not strong, they collapse. If couple stays strong well then nothing can go wrong anymore. Children is one of the biggest responsibility people can have. In the end, it is your influence and your parenting. You are going to be responsible what kind of person reaches this world. I would say couples do break up here a lot as realisation of responsibility scares them away. Some people change their mind and make big mistakes.

Of course, there are so manyy exceptions where you don’t reach second step, where something unexpected happens during 3rd step and so on. Life is full of surprises. It is not hard, people make life hard. Life itself is easy peasy.

BUT what I actually wanted to say… People tend to focus only on negative things or bad experiences that happens during relationship. So often we see ourselves as victims and we think we didn’t do any mistakes in relationships. Unfortunately, we all do mistakes. Sometimes that mistake might be simple – we didn’t notice what was happening with our lover. We don’t notice small messages they are sending us or sometimes we choose to ignore those messages thinking everything will work out. That is not a true.

Relationship requires a lot of work. Every day. All the time. You need to communicate, be there for each other.

THAT IS WHY, we should be thankful for our relationship. We simply forget to say how happy we are in relationship, we don’t say – I love you. We only focus on bad things that happened. But never on good. There is so much to appreciate in this life.

Even if some relationship ended not the way you wanted, you still had good moments, you learned something, it helped you to become better person.

Please please, if you are in relationship, tell them how you love them and show some compassion. If not, tell it your parents and friends! Trust me, you will make them happy.