Hello,

I’m going through a lot of pain right now and was wondering how different people are.

Some people get hurt and receive pain and all they want is to inflict that pain onto others, they want to pass their pain to other instead of dealing with it.

Some people take in pain and learn what does it mean, so they try to never hurt anyone else. Of course, we cannot be heroes in everyone’s life and surely, we have been villains in some people stories.

How do you choose to deal with pain?

I’ve realised now, that I’ve never fight pain with a pain. Never tried to transfer it to somebody else. I rather not to meet someone than hurt them. I deal with my pain inside, deep deep inside of my body. I try to understand it. I do not want to inflict it.

This started when I was very young and was going through a lot of pain. It clicked to me that if I experience so much pain, how much others suffer? How much they suffer in silence? So, I’ve decided that I don’t ever want to make it more difficult. I don’t want to make anyone else to suffer more. We don’t know what is happening in other people lives behind closed door.

However, I’m not perfect and I’ve hurt others, I probably did transfer my pain to somebody else, but not on purpose. You see, I never meant to hurt anyone on purpose.

However, a lot of people do choose transfer their pain onto somebody else. Very clear example – abusers…. Most abusers, were abused in childhood. However, instead of dealing with that pain, they learned to transfer it, they learned to take it out onto somebody else.

Cycle continues.

People without empathy, treat others without empathy and that is sad.

I don’t really know how to deal with pain. I mean I’ve experienced that sort of pain where my heart literally hurt physically. It was such a pain that I didn’t know how to stop, my mind was just trying to shut up, I just seriously wanted to knock down and sleep. I couldn’t deal with reality.

What being adult taught me is that reality is cruel. It is never pink roses and fantasies. Reality is for survivors. Reality was never soft and playful. Nature is not soft and playful.

I think most important thing is to understand that you will experience pain and that is totally normal. Pain is just a part of our experiences in this life, unfortunately, we cannot avoid it.. But that is okay!! Where is love, there is hate. Where is luck, there is failure. We going to have to experience everything in life.

We just need to learn to accept it.

I couldn’t understand for a long time, why I keep suffering, why bad things just keep happening to me?

But I am not the only one and simple answer – because that is how life is! Very simple.

People are fighting to survive, every day, everywhere. Evil is here and goodness is here. Never it will be different here because it is Earth. That is what’s in here. An experience.

Seriously, if souls truly do exist with different planets, species. Oh how much I wouldn’t want to be on Earth again. 😀 if someone asks me, do I want to relive my life? Nope. No no no. 😀

POINT IS. Pain is just part of experience. What is important is to learn how to deal with it (experience, understand it) in a good way and let it go. Nothing is permanent. Even our lives are not permanent.