Hello,

I wanted to make a post about patience or being patient because I do struggle with that a lot. You know, wanting everything now?

I don’t know why but it is very difficult to wait. Difficult to wait for better days. I want immediate good days, although you need to work for them. For your life to be good, you not only need to work on that but also wait for it.

Same with plants, when you a plant a seed you must wait. You can’t push the seed to grow faster and you need to take care of it if you want it to grow nice and healthy. Same in our life, if we want something to change, we need to start making action and then make sure we continue doing what is necessary to make it grow and be constant thing in our life. Even sometimes we need to take care of it for the rest of our lives. Like, if you build a house, it is not enough just to build it, you need to make sure you take care of it, fix it if needed and just basically keep the house nice.

Same with anything in our life. Career, family, love, house and creation. You can’t just do one thing good and expect it will keep this way, or do something once and be – that’s it. Anything in life, unfortunately requires effort and time.

When I was teenager, before becoming an adult (18 years old) I said to myself, first thing I’ll do is move out from my mom’s place…. Do you think that happened? No. It took me another 4 years for it actually happen. I moved out from my mom’s place when I was 22 and I came to UK. It took time, it took effort to do things and get myself somewhere else. Not everything happens immediately. Although, I do not regret those 4 years, because I feel like I needed them. I grew as a person, experienced loads of things, good and bad. In general, I got myself a good foundation. Because otherwise I wouldn’t be prepared for what was waiting for me in the UK and I think if I came here earlier, I would have given up eventually. Seriously moving to different country takes everything from you.

Fast forward to now. I’m impatient again. I want everything better. Don’t get me wrong, I am far from things that would make me happy. Again, I want everything now and it makes me depressed and angry. I do know that I need to wait, but it is so hard. It is not hard for me to put effort. I can work on something, but waiting oh… This is for some reason so difficult for me. So yes, I still need to learn to be more patient and should not get angry if something doesn’t work immediately.

I’ll give you example with buying clothes. Whole my life I had to wear second handed clothes, barely had any new ones (do not get me wrong I still have some second-handed clothes and I will still buy them too). I always wanted cool clothes. Time to time I would get some nice clothes, but it was never the style I actually wanted. So finally, now, I can afford and I can be in charge what I want to wear. Which may sound for some people such a simple thing and some of you might never had this problem, but here again, we all are on different levels of life and not everyone can afford same things. My point is, I can finally buy clothes I want! Which took me how many years? 😀 Well, I am 26… So yeah, being 26 is quite a lot of time to wait.

I guess when people say, good stuff comes slowly, it is true. Because usually good things do come slowly. Quick things not are always bad, but they might not be as good either.

How to learn to wait?

Realize, that you making yourself angry is not going to make things faster. Breathe in, breathe out, enjoy the moment you can have now, enjoy things you can have now and understand that everything will come. Always think about your goals, write them down and more importantly, if there’s something you can do about your goal – do it. If you can take small steps, definitely choose them. For me to get to the UK, took quite a lot of small steps. Remember, some steps might take years.

Most importantly – do not give up. Focus your mind on what you want and move on. You’ll get things you want.