Hello,

Today my patience ended with people being biased towards the people we call family or friends.

Kind of movie Godfather inspired me, kind of real life experiences.

Basically the point. I don’t approve and I don’t understand when people are more favourable towards somebody just because they are are family or friends. You know, those people who think they know somebody, but they actually don’t, but they think they do, because that person is their family or a long friend.

I will tell you simply. That is the biggest nonsense. And yes, I guess a lot of this comes from being primitive creatures when we trusted people who surrounded us. From my own experience I will tell you – you cannot trust anybody. As sad as it sounds, that is reality and moreover, you should not expect that somebody is making a right decision just because you know them. You never know the whole story.

That is why I hated when other people had to be involved in mine and my friends drama, because they never actually knew or understood what happened. Or you know, I will tell you. I witnessed my friends and family members doing many wrong decisions. Some of them took me longer to realise, some of them quicker. Because I was biased and thought that this particular person for sure wouldn’t to that.

You know what? 9 times out of 10, person exactly does something you least expected. Seriously, if you think that people do not make mistakes, or you think that only one side is wrong, then you should definitely go somewhere to figure out some things… Go to psychologist or whatever. It took me many hurtful years to realize, that people ALWAYS will do something you didn’t expect them to do and there is ALWAYS two sides of the story.

Friendship or relationship ended – means somebody didn’t do something or opposite – did something they were not suppose to. If to be honest these days I miss simple honesty and understanding. Like, don’t get me wrong, many things we all can sort out and still be friends or partners or family members. But there are some things people do, that makes you question everyting like why would somebody even do that??

I am angry more than ever because, I am angry all the time I guess. That is my emotion I feel whole my life, because people did so many wrong things to me, I just cannot handle when people still choose to hurt you, rather than to understand and make you feel better. I don’t talk about things that happened to me, but I guess I’m getting older and I feel I need to share. Before I didn’t share as I wanted to just forget. As trauma’s are not easy thing to deal with mentally and when your close people continue to hurt you, it is even worse.

Especially, makes me furious when people are biased because of family or friends. And more! Sometimes they do know those people do bad things and they still choose to stay with them because -well my family or my friend! Let me ask this question – if somebody random would do that, what would be your ACTION? Action and reaction?

If you answered completely differently, well, you are biased and you should change that. You need to understand that just because somebody is your friend or family, doesn’t mean they are allowed to do bullshit.

Funny part to me is this, that those people stay biased until it actually affects themselves. Because they have this mindset – until they do something wrong to me, I don’t care….

People as existence are truly something I don’t agree with.

I think if you are biased to one of the side of the story it will burn you at some point. I mean that person behavior will affect you and then you will realise you had a wrong impression about person who is let’s say close to you. Happened to me this one too. Not that I did not question the person behaviour (I indeed questioned) but I chose to ignore it. Which is bad thing to do and I learned my lesson in a hard way.

Basically, if we want equality, if we want world to be fair, we need to start from ourselves and be fair with people we are surrounded by. I am not saying that if you know somebody is doing something wrong you should inform other included people or idk even a police. I mean, you can do. But you can choose to end a friendship and say to that person that this is was exactly the reason you decided to do so. Let’s say you think they acted not fairly towards somebody and you don’t support that.

What they do after that- it’s up to them. It’s just up to you, not to have people that in a future may behave with you the same.

I just wish, that people would be more objective and stop judging while they know nothing about situation.

I will wish that to myself too. On the same note- study more psychology. Only this way you can learn.

And more over, if somebody goes against you, because they are biased to the person that told them something – RELAX and don’t care. Happened to me many times, you know, I realized, that it says nothing about me, but says everything about them. 😉 At some point they will suffer from that person too and realize they were wrong.

Just in addition, througout my years I realized, life is difficult and never be easy, but hey we are all in this together- so, we will survive!