Hello,

Do you think love exist or don’t?

What is meaning of love to you?

Basically, I really wanted to talk it out. I realised that love don’t exist. I won’t mention reasons, but from my own experience, other people experiences I realized these sad news…

Quite recently I wrote about on how to get the love that we want.. I guess I should fix it to – how to get a relationship that we want…..

Since small age I was looking for love. I wanted that unexplained feeling with certain person so I could feel good, safe, loved and all other good things. I was looking for that person, but one by one, people disappointed me. Everybody in the end showed hate, not love.

I was thinking that I may not be with right person.

I was wrong.

People have flaws. All of us. None of us are perfect and everybody do something that hurts another. I am trying not to hurt people, I most of the times choose somebody else’s decision rather than my own just to make them feel better. I am so called people-pleaser and I was doing whatever people needed just to make them feel better until one friend told me that. She opened my eyes and said – you are living other people life, but not your own. She made me realise that. Yes, I made other people happy, but I was not happy… Or was I? I suffered the most as I never knew what I actually want. I knew what other people want and I thought how can I help them.

That was my first clue that love don’t exist. People are selfish and they only care about what they want. Nobody is going to care about your wishes unless you are included in their wishes. If you are not included, are those people near you? People look for others to gain and use. To fullfill the needs. Why people have lists on finding somebody? Why people have thoughts – how the person they looking for should be like and look like. Because this is what that person needs.

There is no love, there is just needs. You need somebody to do something or they need you to do something and here you stay together and you call that love.

Love basically cannot exist in humans. Humans want power, they want to be selfish. They need to achieve their goals, not thinking about others.

Love doesn’t exist between people. In my opinion. I think love exists but not in what we are thinking of. Love is unseen. Love is transcendence. Love is universe. Love is YOU. Nobody will love you better the way you love yourself. You can have infinte, true and undemanding love for Universe or other people call it God.

Unfortunately, people you love or you say you love will hurt you. They will need something from you and then leave. I am saying because all people I loved – hurt me. I literally couldn’t understand if you love somebody, how can you hurt them? How can you even think of possibility to make them unhappy? (Don’t get me wrong, I don’t accept any type of abuse no matter if you know the person or you don’t. I just thought that people who we call our loved-ones will not hurt you and won’t do bad things to you as they suppose to care).

After crying for so many years, wanting to just leave this earth, realisation that love doesn’t exist makes it more easier. People are gonna hurt you. No matter how you love them or not. People are exchanging. Like countries exchange money and goods. Same with friendships, relationships. You exchange things and move on.

I am not surprised why so many people are single nowadays. People are looking for a same love I am looking. But it doesn’t exist. That is why people choose to be alone. And yes, to be with somebody in relationship is easier. Because again – it is what you need. You want things to be easier – have a partner. You want have fun – have a friend.

When people don’t have a use of each other they get separated.

I hear this thing that we are all the universe experiencing itself. I guess what we experience, is universe making it’s understanding of life and humanity.

Did I stop believing in love? Not exactly. I know love exists but not in between people. Love for nature, music, art and many other things. It exists. Because it is pure, unconditional. Love for those things simply exists, because let’s say rock music doesn’t force you to like it. It doesn’t influence you if you don’t want it. Those things we love that are not humans are true love.

I am open with people to argue with me. I don’t think love between people exist. Simply, I think people are not capable of loving each other. At least not at the minute.

BTW. Love between parents and kids don’t exist either. I think parents learn to love their kids later one in life, and kids learn to love their parents (not all anyway) but if you truly think about it. If there is love between parents and kids why parents judge or hurt kids and same goes for kids….