Hello,

since I came back from Lithuania, loads of negatives thoughts came to my mind about friends and friendship. On my notes I wrote:

I never thought I would say this but keep the distance with your friends. Do not make friendship too close because they will use it against you no matter what. Everybody will use it. They will use information about you to hurt you, to ruin your friendship, relationship. Anything. People just simply cannot know things…

And yes, although I am right about this at the same time I am very negative.

People are not perfect. Nobody is. Unfortunately, everyone makes mistake. So do not be fooled by couple that looks great, no, they have their bullshit too. Do not be fooled by best friends because things happens there too. We are all not perfect but we do like to think this way. I mean who knows what decision is right and what decision is wrong? For you it might look all right to do certain thing, but for another one it won’t be normal. Not to mention that most of our parents did not make a greatest influence on us and we have maaaany problems just because of our parents.

I do know, that if somebody hurts you, it is obviously up to you how you wanna react and what do you wanna do. Just because people are not perfect does not mean you need to justify it and always forgive. Sometimes things need to come to an end… It is always good though to give a time and see if other peson does something about your feelings. If somebody truly care they can fix it, but again so many manipulative people may pretend they fixed it while in reality they did not… Best thing is just to see if person willing to change something about the mistake or not.

Personally to me, it always happens the same. I trust the person with my life, I tell them my personal things, desires, secrets etc and they ruin it. Every friend that gets closer to me, hears less and less about me, cause honestly, I had enough. I do not know what can be more hurtful than your close person using your stuff against you. This should not be allowed.

So…. I know all of us want to talk, all of us want to be heard and understood. All of us want to have somebody we can rely on. Truth is, there is nobody. The sooner you will accept this, the easier it will be. The only person we can actually trust 100% is ourselves. I mean, unless you wanna tell everything about your life to everybody and not care. Then of course, you are welcome to do so. Have a diary (like me) and put all your secrets and bullshit there. Do not bother to say it to your friends. You can have amazing friendship without getting too personal! Trust me, I have those friends and I love them and I appreciate them. Because I have good time with them and they do not have to know everything about me. Honestly, you can be yourself with people without telling them your bullshit. Friends should help you to relax not to make everything more complicated than it is.

Remember guys, nobody make only good decisions. We all do mistakes. More important is to know if people regret those mistakes or if they don’t.

P.S same goes to the couples, if you think couple is perfect, that is not true, they are just good at hiding it. 😉