I wanted to talk about people shifting that I noticed. What shift I noticed? People starting to leave the family goal behind and cares more about a career. Especially with the LinkedIn growth, where everybody started pointing out jobs, achievements and other things… Influencers caring only about their popularity and gain from the companies.

People nowadays do not care about having a family anymore. It is all about career. Is it good or bad thing?

I do not know.

I mean shifting is always a good experience. It means people are changing and evolving.

I don’t think that focus on career is a right choice, but it might be a needed step to finally reaching other goals (like spirituality and etc).

If we talk about our grandparents or parents their main focus was a family. Parents were forced to have a family as youngest as possible. You know that fairy-tale that family is the only one thing you can rely on and trust. Only family loves you and knows the best… But… recently we started noticing that people shifting from families as family bond make a lot of toxic influences and negative experiences. We realised that family should not be idealised, as parents most of the times suck at parenting…

So people decided now to focus on a career. As that is the thing people can do independently, by themselves, they get recognised, they feel important. People becoming important not only for their family members, but for strangers they have never met before. People started showing what they are able to do and how everybody should take an example of them.

Even from my circle. I know so many people being in their 20’s and not having a family. I have one friend that has kids, but it was not planned or intentional. People are focusing on having a good career and getting more money.

I mean another thing is probably we experience is a difficulty to find the right person to create a family with.

Back in the days, your family was deciding who are you marrying or there were not many choices. Currently, people have very high standards with what kind of person they wanna be. Which is fair and reasonable, but it does take more time. People started to have kids later and focusing on career as to find a right person to be with comes in time. If to be honest, when I speak with other people, loads of them say they want to bring kids in an environment where kids will be supported 100%.  I am one of them. If I am not financially stable, if I do not have a stable career, if I do not own a home – there is no place for kids. Because kids should have stable and safe place to grow up. They should not suffer because you cannot make ends and they should not be in danger because you failed.

Career is easy to focus on, there are plenty companies you can work for, you can literally get money so easily… Which is not a bad thing, it means people can create better lives. But do they actually?

Taking care of having a great career can make person:

–Selfish

–Lonely

–Overworked or tired

Let’s shortly go through all of these points.

Selfish – so many people when they get a good career become selfish, off the ground and heartlessness. They start judging you if you are not a manager, or working a simple job such as in the warehouse or as a cleaner. They think they are better than anyone else as they reached so much in their life. They like to show off their achievements and value you according to your achievements. If you do not have any achievements – you are not interesting.

Lonely – so many career people tend to stay alone as usually they do not have time to meet anybody. They go to work, go home and cycle repeats. If you ask them to meet – they do not have time unfortunately. They start becoming depressed as we are social creatures. We need socialising and talking. Talking at work does not help.

Overworked and tired + underpaid. This is I think  a biggest problem because people are working sooo hard and overtime often and do not get paid for those extra hours! Not only that. Those hardworking people are pushed so much that if they do not make something in time their manager blames them and says they cannot handle their job (although person is doing at least 2 people work).. This makes me especially angry as this creates loads of problems. Basically, managers are our parents and managers make soo much influence on us. I mean think about it. You spend 40 hours of your time to be with some random person – who does not care about you! If you do overtime it might make to 50 or 60 hours! We basically live at our work… When person is overworked or tired, they do not want to do anything else, and last thing they have in mind is creating a family or improving their spirituality. Not to mention that maaaaany companies do not pay for your overtimes….

I do know, that we need to work as we would get bored. We need to reach some goals and most importantly – we need to have a career that we want! But at the minute career is a highly toxic goal that makes me sick… Honestly, I hate working 40 hours a week in a company that I do not like, I am underpaid, I am expected to do the most and I am not treated well. Not to mention that after working in these kind of companies, you come back home and everything goes on your partner (all emotions, bad experiences) or if you don’t have a partner – everything stays on you and psychologically we cannot deal with things alone….

I am not saying that focus on family was better choice, no. But career focus is not good either.

People need start to wake up and realise that we do not live the life we want. No, instead people live the life according to somebody else’s rules.

We need to change that.