Hello!!
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Here you go 😉
What I wanted to talk more is about communication and importance of it.
We communicate every single day. Communication is crucial to us in any relationships. I want to encourage everybody to speak more about their feelings, to speak more about what is bothering them, what makes them happy.
I was a person who kept everything and I was boiling from inside all the time. I was not communicating and that made me unhealthy a lot. I usually would keep everything inside until one day I would have enough and then I would spill out everything what bothered me for years. You can imagine how it felt for other person when I never said anything and now – here you go. It was a really bad habit and now I keep pushing myself to talk more, to say what I think or what I feel. Sometimes when you say things at loud it hits you differently. Also it is always good to hear what other person thinks as we tend to imagine things one way while there is apparently another one.
Like me being silent and not speaking up didn’t help to anyone. Especially I hid my anger. Otherwise, if I needed some information or I just wanted to know things – that was never a problem. I would ask questions even if that was making me look weird. When I look to the past I don’t even understand how I had courage to ask certain things. :DDD and I don’t even understand the reasons why I needed to know those things.
One example from my life, I told one guy that I like him through message. We were classmates and when I messaged him we finished that school to go to gymnasiums. I mean I didn’t tell him I am in love with him, I just messaged that I really like him. This message was a big deal for me as I imagined the best reaction…. Well, the story didn’t end good cause he ignored my messaged and then he avoided me afterwards. It hurt a lot as I couldn’t forget him for years and I thought he was the love of my life :DD which obviously is not true as your true love is there for you and will be with you. 😉 So, I could embarass myself like this, but when I was angry I couldn’t speak. I didn’t want to say what makes me angry or what hurt me.
I learned it hard way when people started to point out that me keeping everything inside doesn’t help. Now I am much better at it and I am proud how I improved. Still sometimes I have difficulty to show the anger but I am trying. Because being angry is normal emotion that we experience and we shouldn’t shut it down. We should talk about it. Keeping anger inside makes a lot of health problems too.
Let’s say I don’t know your reason of lacking to be more communicative, but I am sure you know. Or if you don’t struggle with this – congratulations! I think it is really rare.
Also, the way we communicate is important too. Even if we are angry, sad or whatever we should communicate politely, we should respect other person and don’t use curse words or don’t call them any negative words. We people do take everything personally and we don’t forget hurtful words.
Another thing, true and real relationship with your partner wouldn’t exist without communication. Honestly, this is what love is based on. Sometimes you need to talk about same things over and over again. But don’t stop. People need to be reminded sometimes and it is better to repeat yourself than not to say anything and suffer. 😉
I believe many bad things happens because people lack of skill to communicate properly, so people tend to make assumptions. Never make assumption until you actually know what other person is thinking. I did this mistake too and I hurt myself so many times as in the end I was not right about what other is thinking.
Patience is also crucial in communication as sometimes we don’t want to wait up. Especially with our technologies we love to message nonsenses instead of agreeing to meet and then talk. We need to be more patient when person tries to communicate and when must listen. No interruptions and no pushing. Just let the person talk and you will see the magic and their perspective.
To make a conclusion:
- Communicate your feelings.
- Communicate your thoughts.
- Don’t make false assumptions.
- Learn how to listen.
- Be patient.
xx ❤
Egle Ku 