This time sad theme about esteem or respect.

I noticed that people don’t know how to respect each other….

We don’t know how to esteem and understand other.

What fascinates me and also terrifies is that usually we can’t respect and understand our close ones… From my own experience usually the closest people do something unforgivable, disrespectful and they don’t even try to understand you because they make their own conclusions as they “know” you. I don’t get why this happens. It is not how it should be. We should esteem everyone and everything in the same way… If person is close for us, for clear reasons, it doesn’t mean we can put shit on him. Absolutely opposite. Close people becomes like that because we respect, love and understand them more than others. But unfortunately it is opposite. We are not afraid to be rude and nasty in front of the ones we love. We are not afraid to say hurtful words.. Because you know, it is close person, he should bear it… But wait a minute… Where is esteem??? Could we say the same words to famous person or our authority? No? So why on earth we use those words for the people we love? Also, it is not only words we use, but actions we make to our close ones.

Why we always think that if we are close, then person should deal with us they way we are and we don’t care anymore how we actually look in front of that person eyes…. Are we really hiding so much negative things inside us that we need to spill it on our loved ones???

If somebody argue with me that true love has to overcome everything and that close person is that way because he sees us naked and nasty, I won’t agree with that ever… Personally for me, close person is not the one who should see me angry, pissed, I shouldn’t spill all my emotions on close person (actually neither to anyone, psychologists are for that). For me close person is an example, you want be good with that person and grow together, you want to get rid off negative thoughts and learn to love…

What means esteem or respect to YOU?

When you will have an answer to that question, think about how you act with your loved ones. Do you respect them the same way as you just described? How they act with you?

I had an enlightenment… I just realized how many “close” people actually did not esteemed me… I was just a boxing pear which everybody punched from every side…. While I respected, they disrespected me…

Why we let others not to respect us, it is next question.. We all should think about it.

It hurts me that this is what happens. Close people, family, friends are taking advantage of their place in our life and they think they can act whatever they want with us. It is not how it suppose to be… This is how people don’t have a respect for themselves too.

Why we love and esteem ourselves, but we can easily hurt our close ones???…