Hey.

One of my readers wrote me a feedback (I couldn’t reach that person via email, so I hope he will see this post) and gave interesting theme, about violence which other people provokes. When a person who seems so calm, intelligent and good suddenly acts inadequate and aggressively. When something provokes him to act in the way he would never even thought about it.

Firstly, I would like to mention movie Se7en, if you haven’t watched it – you definitely should! 10/10 movie. It also shows how people can kill or act aggressively just because of the situation they are in.

I don’t know if you ever heard a proverb about silent people in the class? Some says that these are the most dangerous people. And statistically they are more into killings and violence? Bet no one gives a thought why people are silent. Some says that if person is silent you should leave him alone. But from my experience I can tell silent people are the ones who struggle the most. Not always we can help them but we should support them and show them that they are not alone. Psychopaths are born and parents can provoke them to act violently. But not all psychopaths becomes killers. For example sociopaths are people who kills because of the traumas they had in the past. Who creates those traumas? We all make them for each other. Everyday we see violence and we support it. And I don’t talk only about physical violence. More often there is a psychological aggression. Which is even worse. You can heal your body, but you can’t heal your soul. (Like I mean, you can never run away from the things which makes you who you really are right now).

But in my opinion, the choice is ours. We choose to act as a abuser or not. People love power and they love feeling higher than the others. Mostly if someone can not be psychologically higher than the other he can use physical strength. We can’t provoke each other in any way. We can’t humiliate each other. Sadly, but we are the creatures who eventually will choose to kill just because to show our superiority.

We have a big problem with abuse in families in Lithuania. I know a lot of people will disagree with me and maybe even hate my opinion. But as a women, watching some examples, I can say that many of domestic violence provokes women by themselves (I include only Lithuania because I have no right to say anything about other countries). Our women are strong, brave, confident, beautiful and most of the times they feel higher than a men. Which in biological way is not possible. Men are stronger, wiser, less emotional and overall head of the family. And when females starts to humiliate men intellectually they have no other choice just to prove their power with violence and physical abuse.

Also I want to point out the word – a choice. That means men can choose and instead of aggression choose compromise.

Anyways, violence is not an answer to a better life.

People often acts violently when they are forced to choose and have no other option. Or when someone mocks them or makes them to do terrible stuff (like when someone threatens you and etc.). There are so many inhumane things around the world… I had experienced situations where violence could be provoked from me. It’s not the time to tell me about those situations, but I perfectly know what it means to be provoked act violently. But I always chose peace. I always chose silence and had some thoughts about suicide. I never thought about harming other human-being. Mothers are great example. They can do anything for their child and they can do everything just to protect their child. Question is – is it right to do anything for your loved ones? Love is a great excuse. But what is love then? To harm other person even if you have a great excuse – is not a decision.

You harm someone and you get it back. That is how life works.

Same reader asked me what I am doing, how I am dealing with violence. And honestly I try as much as I can to react to the things calmly. But sometimes I have those moments where I struggle and some people just are amazing in provoking me to be angry. People who can not see the truth, who have their stupid opinions and who can’t find a compromise. I hate those people. But either way I do not choose aggression. Actually, I choose not to argue anymore if I see that person do not listen. Sooner or later life shows them what is true and that they were wrong. And also I hate being angry. If person provokes you to be angry or it makes you to feel negative emotions over and over again, you have to ask yourself is it worth it to be with that person.

So, my main action which I make to spread peace and love – my blog, my thoughts, posts, poetry. I spread a message, I talk to others and I don’t choose violence. But to spread peace we must feel it inside us too and we have to deal with all our negative characteristics. Because I also hate people who thinks that they are mister or miss perfection, that they don’t have any minuses and others must to adapt to them. No. We all have negative things inside us but we choose to work with them and make ourselves better or explain to others how to live “correctly”.

It is scary when somebody, even absolutely unknown person can provoke us to act aggressively and inadequate. But that is why we must to work with ourselves, get down to the earth and seek for a higher purpose and spirituality. That’s a thing. People think that they are special, they are somehow better, somehow higher. Truth is, we all are the same. We all came from the same universe and we will come back to it. No one is higher or lower. We are the same and equal. Yes, we want to believe in some fantasy that we are gods and that someone needs to glorify us. We must glorify nature, sky, animals. Because these things let us to live. What we would be without earth? Nothing.