So, we all put labels in our life. For example: „Best friend“, „Girlfriend“ „Boyfriend“ „Husband“ and etc… And putting them on people means we have some kind of expectations from them. Like, best friend should be very supportive and trust able. Boyfriend should always be by your side and show love for you. Well, I think you know what I mean…

But when we put labels for people and we say what they should do for us, we take away from them freedom. Of course, I don‘t mean that you can justify betrayal. I mean small things we put on others pressure. So, what I want to say, that we all should stop putting labels. Nobody own us and we don‘t own others. I will explain more with examples from my life.

I had two best friends. And what I noticed that after I told them they are my best friends our friendship changed. You definitely expect more from your best friend. Also, that means you have to give more time for them but we all know, that sometimes it is difficult. And sadly, I don‘t have any best friend cause after a lot of drama in my life I thought – enough. Enough to have best friends and give them expectations I can‘t do. Also, why I should give my time for them when I don‘t want to do that? And now I have two other friends. They are both important for me and I love them equally but I didn’t put any label. And it is easier to live. You don‘t expect anything and they don‘t expect too. And our friendships just getting stronger. Maybe they don‘t know about me as much as my best friends did. But in my age I understood that some things has to stay only for yourself. Or maybe for kids, my love of the life. Friends are real when they don‘t push you and don‘t make any problems when you say – I can‘t meet or I need to meet other person.

Same with boyfriends and girlfriends. If you say for them – you need to that or I don‘t like your behavior, then sorry, but I have to ask, why are you with him? (Or her). Love or relationship shouldn’t change other person. You love them for what they are but not for what they should be. I remember my boyfriend. We lived in different cities and all the time I was angry that he can‘t come to me. And after one or two year I said – enough. I can‘t love person which isn’t near me. And we separated. I realized that I was pushing him too much while I shouldn’t do that. And after few years he arrived to my city for studies and he wrote me that we can be together now but I disagreed. Why? I think you know the answer.

Well if it still isn’t clear for you, ask yourself, do you expect something from your parents, sisters, brothers or uncles? Do you love them because of what they do to you or you love (or hate) them because of them personalities?

Just remember to love personality not the expectation. And also, if you don‘t like something in exact person behavior stop communicate with him or accept him they way he already is. My mum in my teenage years always was saying – „you can‘t change people, so, don‘t even try“. And in the same time don‘t let others to change you. You are who you are. And you will find of the 7,7 billion people even one, two or hundred who will like you in the way you already are. 😉