People who had experienced abuse from others are unfortunate. But those who are friends with these kind of people are also getting struggle.

Why?

Let’s take a simple example.

A dog which was abused and hurt by his owner or other person always gets aggressive and starts to bite everyone. This is how he protects himself. Even when good and peaceful people take this dog, he will need a lot of time to UNDERSTAND that he won’t be hurt anymore.

Same is with people. Those who have been abused starts to find a way to protect themselves. They defense themselves all the time. They can’t accept criticism cause they think others want to assault them. So, it is hard not only for them but also their friends.

But this is how abused people act when they haven’t forgiven for offenders.

Why it is difficult for a friends? Because you know that your opinion can be misunderstood. And honest criticism can be thought as assault… You will always have to adjust and considerate everything you say. And you will agree that this is hard…

So, please, for those who have been abused – forgive for offenders… It will be easier for you and your family or friends. People who truly loves you will never hurt you for no reason or just for fun. No. People who really loves you just wants to protect you same way as you want. So, let it go…