So the second theme which I got – childhood memories and bond between two people. At first I thought – what an easy theme. Right now I can’t decide what to write about… Anyway, first part- about childhood memories that I loved and how childhood is important. And the second part – bond between two people.
I missed childhood. I have a lot of good and sad memories… I think everyone can write a book about their childhood. What I missed the most – happiness, no responsibility and true friendships. In my childhood we didn’t have a lot of technologies. No touch phones, no Instagram etc. Just a few games on mobile and an old old dinosaur computer. So, we had to find activities by ourselves.
What I loved the most?
Sleepovers with my best friends. Being in the village. Walking in the empty city.. Also, I loved to make videos. Even though at that times we only could make about one minute videos but that was so fun. Of course playing with a toys, barbies, little pet shop.. I loved reading books at the summer. I had a one celebration each summer with my bestie which we called – summer beginning. So we would always ask our parents for some money, today it would be like 3 euros. We would always buy ice creams and some sweets on them… And there it was. Our party for a summer. I really loved the 1st of September because I always was missing my school. But only in September just because I liked to buy new stuff for school and I was so exited to choose my journals for each subject. I love to be organized. Just atmosphere in school is different than in college or university. If to be more precisely there are too many memories to talk about.
How childhood is important?
First of all, our spiritual and material values are developed. We choose what is truly important to us and what is not. Every experience make us who we are in the adult life. I know, we change all the time. But true ourselves doesn’t change. Like, my favorite color is still blue. My favorite animal is still a tiger. I love music and I can’t imagine my life without it. I love having a lot of different friends and communication. I love to create poetry and yes, I started writing in my early age. But then it wasn’t a poetry just a songs.
That is why children must be raised in a good way and that is a big responsibility. Because child is your and your partners mirror. He gets mostly things from the parents. Of course, there is no perfect way to grow a child. What is significant – to understand that childhood will make a biggest influence for a personality. So, you as a parent must be careful the way you even talk to your child.
I advice you to also remember your childhood and find situations which made you act the way you act right now. Find that keys to your memories. We remember things which made the biggest influence on us. But when we understand our reactions and experiences we can control ourselves better. So, that is a good way to redeem your behavior or values.
Bond between two people.
That is a big theme. That could be bond between family members. Friends. Partners. Anyone. Bond between you and a stranger. Bond between you and your teacher. I got a lot of bonds between quite different people. And I don’t know how it works. Sometimes you can talk to person easily while next time you can’t even make a normal conversation. One thing I know. You will bond with people easily if you are open. Be open to everyone and don’t judge. (except if it is your job to judge 😄)
Bond between child and parents
We all can agree that bond between child and mother is undeniable and unique. Mothers just can feel their child. But not the all the time there is a strong connection. Some parents don’t want to feel how is their child feeling. I would say family bond overall is really special. It is sad that not all the children can have this as there is no perfect family. Still, no matter what, we shouldn’t forget that we owe nothing to our parents. Because sometimes family does this thing when they blame you for being you, right. Something like – you own us because we raised you. No, that is not your fault. They choose to have a baby or not. So, family bond sometimes can be negative. But every bond can be destroyed. Sooner or later. If you have good relations with your parents keep it that way. Show them love and help them. If those relations are not so good, don’t be sad. You are not the only one. Just be thankful that you have a life and move on. Family is not about blood. It is about who is near when you need that. You choose who can be your family. 😉
Bond between a lady and a men.
Well, this bond is second strongest after the family. In my experience it even stronger. Of course this bond is much more different. Family is all about platonic feelings while here we have physical attraction… I can say that sometimes we think bond is from both sides. But that might be not a case. And that hurts when you think other feels the same as you but in the end you realize that it is not a truth. I had this not real connection where I was 100% sure it was between both of us. I was at the school back then. Dreams, conversations, smiles, scent. Everything felt like that is my second half. Well, I was wrong and I hurt myself for many years. My heart was closed for many years. I couldn’t fall in love. Hell, I thought I will never fall in love again. That also wasn’t a true. So, what I want to say, don’t get lost. Don’t let your mind imagine there is a bond while there isn’t. True bond have to be from the both sides. I think you will understand it when you both will say – I feel the same, I feel connection. Also, I think all of you heard this phrase: Sometimes you meet person for the first time and it feels like you already know him/her. Yeah, been there, felt that. But that doesn’t mean it is good or that you can trust him/her for sure. Nah. Mine experience says, that sometimes those people are not for long in your life and sometimes you shouldn’t even trust them. Usually, they come to teach you something and that is it. Anyway, I hope everybody will find that unearthly, unique and amazing bond between their second half.
Also, I need mention one more thing. We will have a lot of bonds through life. There are many bonds for one day, or even for an evening. I had those bonds. And I can’t understand how they became reality or why we feel those connections. But some bonds we have to let go. They come and they go. Some boys or girls comes just for no meaning. Maybe you met them in your past life… Maybe you feel some kind of love for them. But that will not be for the whole life. Sometimes we bond with people when we need that. Sometimes we bond just to get help. So, don’t get lost between those bonds too. Because that is how betrayal comes. You feel connection and you surrender for that feeling. Not always we have to let the bond go both sides, control is important.
Thanks for reading and have a beautiful day! #instagraminspirations
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