Hi…

How are you?

One day I understood the mistake which I tend to do over and over again. Same situations comes all the time. And my mistake is really simple.

I can’t say – no. (Like I mean strong no).

There are so many things I need to end, or to say goodbye for a person, job, decisions and etc. But in final I can’t do that. I can’t say no. Like somebody is always overpersuade me.

They do that cause I’m really empathetic and I feel other. I know how they’re feeling and well, I’m stupid, cause I always put others first than me… I can’t be egoistic in this world cause there is too many of those people already. So, yeah, I always change my mind. And then.. Everything turns around. When you have power on other person won’t you just take this as an advantage?

For example, when person starts not to appreciate me I become angry. Once I read the thought – Aquarius be like (cause I’m Aquarius): “as soon as you make me feel like I’m bothering you, you won’t ever have to worry about me hitting you up again”. And that is the truth. When I pluck up my courage and I say a big big NO, then my dear reader, I become an evil. Then I’m the worst person in the world because I said no… Funny, isn’t it?

So what should I do?

I just have to stop give another chance. There is one shot. One opportunity to make my decision. No second chance for everything. I don’t know, maybe for you the second chance is always better. From my experience I always become disappointed.

And yes, I know that this is my fault cause people expect from me more but as soon as I say no, everything changes. Even if they overpersuade me I won’t act the same as before. Because I don’t care that much anymore.

Well, if you experience same difficulties as me, I suggest you to believe in yourself and do not listen what other says. If you want to end something. Do it. And don’t worry what other human-beings will think. IT IS YOUR LIFE. It is your happiness. Not them.

If your boss says that there is no better person for exact work than you, do not listen. You deserve more. If friend, girlfriend or boyfriend asks for another chance and YOU don’t want the same, say so. People always try to bring you back by using your emotions. Don’t let them do it.

You create your destiny. Not they.

Even if they are right, you should do what you want. Maybe you will regret but at least you know you tried.

Also, often people say – how we gonna be without you, how I’m gonna live without you, who is going to work instead of you.. And well, you know how people can persuade… DO NOT LISTEN.

Remember one thing. That’s their problem, not yours.

Well, one example from my life. I even wrote a post about how I’m gonna quit choir. But my choir leader overpersuaded me. And I stayed. Now… Oh boy, I regret that, cause finally I become a bad person, cause I didn’t go to the rehearsals as I was writing bachelor these 4 months and a lot of new things happened in my life and I just had no time for choir. And what I heard, that I didn’t go to the choir on purpose… And also I heard that it is my fault that there are only three sopranos in the choir…

Yes, of course, it is my fault that I have a life. I have other things to do. Yes… I understand…

And it is just one situation. I had so many with same ends. And I don’t want to  repeat those mistakes.

No is no. Yes is yes. Maybe is when you think of pluses and minuses.

🙂

Also, if you considerate to end something right now, write me. Tell me everything about that situation and maybe we will find a solution for you.

Smile, say no, say yes, and stay truth to yourself. ❤

Love ya all. Happy summer!

xoxo VP